June is a slip into summer…
The days are longer, the nights are warmer, the fragrant flowers are everywhere, and the June birds are singing….
The June birds are singing? Yes, as a matter of fact birds sing more from late May to mid-June during what is their mating season.
And what are they singing about? Yes- it’s time to get intimate! The male birds have traveled north and arrived early to build their nests, and now call to out to their female counterparts to join them on this journey of their life cycle.
If the female bird finds them attractive, they will respond. They will?!?
Interestingly, for years, we thought it was only the male birds’ songs that we hear, but new research indicates that female birds sing as well- and their song is a clear communication to potential mates that they are all ready to ‘bunker down’, and “Why don’t you come up and see me sometime, big boy”
Isn’t it interesting that as we start feeling better about our situations, our desire to share that feeling with others is heightened? Just like the desire for birds to mate, reproduce and have families, in the spring to summer months, we are prone to more amorous feelings as the weather gets warmer. Several scientific studies have shown that warmer body temperatures often lead to feelings of connection and attraction.
Maybe it’s the weather or maybe it’s the feeling of happiness when we are in the sun? Maybe we just really enjoy connecting to others in this season?
New scientific research has even discovered that different hormones peak during different seasons. Our reproduction hormones tend to peak late winter into spring. Move over birdie! Moreover, our serotonin levels are also elevated during the summer months with more exposure to sun light. With this higher dose, we can feel more confident in our skin, more able to open up and share with others. This hormone also creates feelings of loyalty, which may engender trust and open honesty. Hormonal changes such as these can increase our desire to connect with others. Biologically, we are social creatures and it is vital to our survival, our health and our well-being, to have solid connections with a close, core group of people in which we can allow ourselves to be intimate and vulnerable with.
Communication is at the core of these connections.
HeartMath Institute is a nonprofit organization that scientifically researches the ways in which the heart effects people and uses cutting edge technologies to develop practical solutions for improved physical, emotional, and mental well-being. HeartMath sites three important layers to heart to heart communication.
- Listen to the Words: Listen carefully when you are having a deep, one on one conversation. You want to make sure that you are really present on an intimate level. Listen to the words that your partner or friend is saying. What words are they using? How are they using them? Sometimes we interpret words differently than how they are intended. Listen carefully and don’t interject any other meanings.
- Listen for the Feelings: When your partner is speaking, what feelings are they conveying? Can you sense the emotion that is coming through the words? Sometimes it’s subtle. Sometimes it’s not so subtle. Feel in to what they could be feeling and see if you can empathize with those feelings.
- Embrace the Conversation: They are communicating deep and meaningful thoughts, insights and emotions. When we can truly be intimate in sharing our thoughts and feelings, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. Be present with your partner, let them be heard, listen with an open heart, and don’t make assumptions. Try to hear with “open ears”.
These techniques are truly valuable for eliciting the sense of connection and communion that allow our deepest thoughts and feelings to come forward. If you have struggled with having a conversation with someone or if someone is coming to you with a tough subject that they need to talk about, try these techniques. See how they work for you. See what comes of this unique and powerful way of communicating from the heart’s center.
And check in with your self-talk. Negative self-talk can get in the way of intimacy, vulnerability, love, emotions, a sense of bonding, and true companionship.
It can also get in the way of your own self-care and even hinder any attempt at meditation. I have heard from so many that their biggest meditation obstacle is their constant mind chatter. This is not a meditation problem, this is a self-talk problem. In my next blog I discuss what happens when our self-talk gets out of control. We also talk about poop, Geraldo, iPhones named Rossa, swimming pools, and good vibrations. Look for it June 21st….
Enjoy this wonderful moment and soak it all in…
Be happy
Be blessed
Be love
~Shana
Footnotes:
- Matt Wilkins, Lauryn Benedict(November 26, 2021). Why We Didn’t Know That Female Birds Sing. Retrieved from scientificamerican.com/article/why-it-took-so-long-to-appreciate-female-birds-song
- Jason Whiting Ph.D. (May 3, 2017). ‘You Are Hot!’ The Strange Link Between Body Heat and Love : How physical temperature has a literal connection to your relationship. retrieved from: www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-lies-and-conflict/201705/you-are-hot-the-strange-link-between-body-heat-and-love?amp·
- Lynda Liu (1999 WebMD) Summer Sun for Winter Blues: Basking in the sun for depression? Retrieved from www.webmd.com/depression/features/summer-sun-winter-blues
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