“Surrender is faith that the power of love can accomplish anything… even when you cannot foresee the outcome” Deepak Chopra
My little boy has a new trick. However, his trick might not mean much if you don’t know him: so, here’s his back ground…
He is extremely speech delayed. At three and a half, he is regularly only speaking a handful of words, not putting words together, and not repeating very much. It’s been a hard and long journey…
But he is my sweet little green-eyed boy, who has a personality too big for words. He taught himself various gymnastics moves, he rides a two-wheeler at 10mph, he burns the street up on his scooter and he can climb ANYTHING. Not to mention, he is the life of the party, even without having to say a thing. But his energy is high. Let me rephrase that. His energy is OUT OF CONTROL. If I could bottle it, I would put Starbucks out of business.
So, when he slows down, relaxes, allows, and surrenders; I get out my pom-poms!
Getting back to his trick: every night he has a bath, and recently he likes to submerge himself under the water almost completely except for a little outline of his face. He just stares up at the ceiling with an expression of pure serenity and peace.
I’ve always lived by the water, in New York, in California, in New Zealand, and in my few months living on Kangaroo Island in Australia. It was always a bike ride away.
That said, I have heard EVERY story about kid’s drowning: from drowning at a beach party in a cooler of 2” of water, to big waves taking children out to sea. To put it bluntly, it FREAKS me out.
In fact, in my own life I had a near drowning experience on the cusp of 2000…
At the end of 1999, for New Year’s, a friend and I decided to go to Costa Rica for the Y2K scare. We figured if the world was going to end, we would rather be in a tropical paradise than anywhere else, with coconuts and bananas at our fingertips, and the ability to sleep -comfortably- anywhere outside.
Another good friend lived in San Jose and took us on a road trip to this absolutely gorgeous beach right outside of a small surfer town Dominical. We were the only ones on the beach and I felt so blessed and so lucky. It felt like we had journeyed back in time thousands of years. We could hear the monkeys and birds in the dense jungle behind us. Large white sun-drenched tree trunks spotted our landscape as we sat on the foot-print-less beach drinking lime filled coronas. Beautiful parrots flew overhead.
None of us were great swimmers and little did we know that you actually have to be a great swimmer in that part of the world because it’s the undertow capital of Costa Rica. Clueless, off we went for a swim in the seemingly perfect turquoise waters…
We were swimming peacefully for quite some time. In fact, the water was pretty shallow, so you had to go some distance to get to the deeper waters. At some point the tides strength quickly started to build, and we yelled to each other “Let’s go back in”. But it was too late. The strength of the tide was pulling us further and further from the shore…
We both started to panic. I was probably the weaker swimmer, but my friend was a bit further out then I. She started to yell for me,” Can you come and help me?!?” As I looked back, I realized I was using all my strength just to stay put, my heart started racing and I started to panic, as she clearly was as well.
I yelled to her to just go with the tide and I would try and get help… We both were literally in over our heads. My Costa Rican friend and her husband were on the shore and I knew if I could get to Juan, he might be able to help my friend. I was terrified I wouldn’t make it on time.
It was one of the scariest moments in my life and, believe me, I’ve had a lot of scary moments. It was scary because I absolutely couldn’t help my friend which is the only thing I wanted to do, and I knew to my core if I tried, I would die in the process.
I harder I swam the further the tide pulled me back. So, I surrendered. I just started to float. Then I would try and swim, but if it was too strong, I started to float again. I went back a little, then forward a lot, then back a little. I eventually made it to the shallow waters and by that point, my friend who was behind me had followed suit. We both were alive; shaking, breathless, shocked, but breathing.
Letting go saved our lives.
Yoga has what I call its own 10 commandments. They are called the Yamas and the Niyamas, and they are meant to be perfected BEFORE you even start practicing the poses. Coming in at number ten is – you guessed it! Surrender or Isvara-Pranidhana.
Yogapedia writes “Ishvara pranidhana is the practice of fully surrendering the self to God, chosen personal god, or Life Force.”
Surrendering requires discipline, trust and faith. It is the art of allowing but believing that the higher self, the source, God, Universal energy- whatever you want to call ‘It’- It has your back.
Jen Sincero talks about this in her book “You are a Bad Ass”. She writes about how it isn’t giving up, but rather doing your best and allowing the outcome to arrive without force. Her ‘to-do’ list is: “Showing up every day with an excellent attitude. Doing your best. Leaning back. Celebrating what is. And steadily working with the grateful expectation and belief that the universe is sending you a new more lucrative opportunity.” and “Surrender is not what you do, but how you’re being as you do it.” Jen Sincero
We can’t control everything. and when we try, we struggle. If I had swam back to my friend, I most likely would have drowned. I had to let go of control. I had to allow what would happen to happen. I had to do my best in that moment. I had to have faith.
“When we know love matters more than anything, and we know that nothing else REALLY matters, we move into the state of surrender. Surrender does not diminish our power, it enhances it.” Sara Paddison
Back to the bath tub…
Each night my little guy plays in his tub, and after a while, lays down deep in the water and looks up. I sit there, watching him intently, always there in case he needs me. I have gotten used to allowing him enjoyment in this moment. I watch as he embraces surrender and the feeling of weightlessness and the warmth of the waters that surround him. I watch as he does through some deprivation of sound and movement; as he is a highly sensitive child, and this calms him. And as I watch him, he teaches me how to surrender with joy and love.
“God can dream a bigger dream, for me, for you, then you can ever dream for yourself. When you’ve worked as hard, and done as much, and strive and tried and given. And pleaded and bargained. And hoped. Surrender. When you done all you can do, and there is nothing left for you to do, give it up. Give it up to that thing that is greater than yourself.” Oprah Winfrey
Be well, Be Strong, Be Love, and Be faith,
Shana Heatley
Why Most Vision Boards Don’t Work (And What I Do Instead)
It starts with a slight itch. Like nothing quite feels right. Like when you have an itchy sweater on that you just NEED to take off. But once it’s off, that itch is still there.
That’s kind of what it feels like when you’re feeling ready for a new chapter… but unsure how to cross the threshold. Got the itch? Then keep reading ~ this is for you.
I write this from a place of lived experience… and then some. Many, many, MANY times I’ve changed directions (for my astrology peeps- that’s my intercepted MC hard at work!). And that “in-between” space? It’s a REAL place. Not only real, but a tender place where the old version of you is loosening(old routines, old roles, old identities) but the new version hasn’t fully been discovered yet. And if you’re an empath (or having a deeply ‘feely’ human moment), it can seem like: “Why can’t I just decide already?” “Why am I emotional for no reason?” “Why do I want change and also want to hide under a blanket forever?”
We burn out. We disconnect. And we convince ourselves that magic was never real to begin with.
But here’s what I know: you’re allowed to stop waiting for those dreams. You’re allowed to stop participating in the hustle culture. You’re allowed to pause and breathe. And most importantly? You’re allowed to start creating.
Got the Itch? How to Start a New Chapter When You Feel Stuck
It starts with a slight itch. Like nothing quite feels right. Like when you have an itchy sweater on that you just NEED to take off. But once it’s off, that itch is still there.
That’s kind of what it feels like when you’re feeling ready for a new chapter… but unsure how to cross the threshold. Got the itch? Then keep reading ~ this is for you.
I write this from a place of lived experience… and then some. Many, many, MANY times I’ve changed directions (for my astrology peeps- that’s my intercepted MC hard at work!). And that “in-between” space? It’s a REAL place. Not only real, but a tender place where the old version of you is loosening(old routines, old roles, old identities) but the new version hasn’t fully been discovered yet. And if you’re an empath (or having a deeply ‘feely’ human moment), it can seem like: “Why can’t I just decide already?” “Why am I emotional for no reason?” “Why do I want change and also want to hide under a blanket forever?”
We burn out. We disconnect. And we convince ourselves that magic was never real to begin with.
But here’s what I know: you’re allowed to stop waiting for those dreams. You’re allowed to stop participating in the hustle culture. You’re allowed to pause and breathe. And most importantly? You’re allowed to start creating.
A Moon That Remakes You: November’s Crossroads
You’re not imagining it—the magic really did disappear for a while. The world just takes from us, doesn’t it?
The bills. The to-do lists that never end. The constant pressure to keep up, show up, be more, do more. We’re so busy surviving the demands of modern life that we forget we ever had dreams. Forget what it feels like to be aligned with anything beyond just making it through the day.
And somewhere in all that noise and depletion, the sacred slips away. We lose touch with the part of us that used to believe in something bigger. That used to feel things deeply.
We burn out. We disconnect. And we convince ourselves that magic was never real to begin with.
But here’s what I know: you’re allowed to stop waiting for those dreams. You’re allowed to stop participating in the hustle culture. You’re allowed to pause and breathe. And most importantly? You’re allowed to start creating.
You’re Not Imagining It—The Magic Really Did Disappear For A While.
You’re not imagining it—the magic really did disappear for a while. The world just takes from us, doesn’t it?
The bills. The to-do lists that never end. The constant pressure to keep up, show up, be more, do more. We’re so busy surviving the demands of modern life that we forget we ever had dreams. Forget what it feels like to be aligned with anything beyond just making it through the day.
And somewhere in all that noise and depletion, the sacred slips away. We lose touch with the part of us that used to believe in something bigger. That used to feel things deeply.
We burn out. We disconnect. And we convince ourselves that magic was never real to begin with.
But here’s what I know: you’re allowed to stop waiting for those dreams. You’re allowed to stop participating in the hustle culture. You’re allowed to pause and breathe. And most importantly? You’re allowed to start creating.
Learning to Trust What You Already Know
Have you ever found yourself pondering over your deepest desires, visualizing how you want to express your life, and asking, “What is it that I want to attract and manifest?” It’s a concept that might seem bizarre to some, and one that is often met with a lot of doubt. This is especially true when it comes to the belief or concept of manifesting or attraction. You might have heard of “The Secret,” Abraham-Hicks, or Gabby Bernstein, and thought it all sounded a bit too “woo-woo.” However, it’s a concept that is definitely worth exploring.
Regardless of your personal beliefs, manifestation can be an incredibly useful tool for achieving your dreams. Whether you see it as a blueprint for action or a method of bringing your desires to life, the practice holds true value. And the best part? Its applications extend far beyond just achieving your goals – its principles can be applied to many areas of your life.
Manifestation is a powerful tool that can help you bring your desires and dreams into reality. While there are many techniques for manifesting, some of the most effective ones are often overlooked. Here are five tips for manifesting that will be sure to can bring you closer to joy:
April’s Messages- can you hear them?
Navigating the Forest of Intuition: Uncovering the Path to Profound Understanding
Journey through the dense undergrowth of uncertainty and skepticism to uncover the hidden trails of intuition, where obstacles mirror life’s challenges and disruptions. Embrace the whispers of your inner voice as you traverse this profound forest, emerging into the sunlit meadow of profound understanding and enlightenment.
Embracing the Soulful Growth and Expansion of Wintering
Have you ever found yourself pondering over your deepest desires, visualizing how you want to express your life, and asking, “What is it that I want to attract and manifest?” It’s a concept that might seem bizarre to some, and one that is often met with a lot of doubt. This is especially true when it comes to the belief or concept of manifesting or attraction. You might have heard of “The Secret,” Abraham-Hicks, or Gabby Bernstein, and thought it all sounded a bit too “woo-woo.” However, it’s a concept that is definitely worth exploring.
Regardless of your personal beliefs, manifestation can be an incredibly useful tool for achieving your dreams. Whether you see it as a blueprint for action or a method of bringing your desires to life, the practice holds true value. And the best part? Its applications extend far beyond just achieving your goals – its principles can be applied to many areas of your life.
Manifestation is a powerful tool that can help you bring your desires and dreams into reality. While there are many techniques for manifesting, some of the most effective ones are often overlooked. Here are five tips for manifesting that will be sure to can bring you closer to joy:
Five Tips to Usher In Your Manifestations!
Have you ever found yourself pondering over your deepest desires, visualizing how you want to express your life, and asking, “What is it that I want to attract and manifest?” It’s a concept that might seem bizarre to some, and one that is often met with a lot of doubt. This is especially true when it comes to the belief or concept of manifesting or attraction. You might have heard of “The Secret,” Abraham-Hicks, or Gabby Bernstein, and thought it all sounded a bit too “woo-woo.” However, it’s a concept that is definitely worth exploring.
Regardless of your personal beliefs, manifestation can be an incredibly useful tool for achieving your dreams. Whether you see it as a blueprint for action or a method of bringing your desires to life, the practice holds true value. And the best part? Its applications extend far beyond just achieving your goals – its principles can be applied to many areas of your life.
Manifestation is a powerful tool that can help you bring your desires and dreams into reality. While there are many techniques for manifesting, some of the most effective ones are often overlooked. Here are five tips for manifesting that will be sure to can bring you closer to joy:
Discover Your Inner Wisdom: A Beginner’s Guide to Intuition and Feeling Your Vibes
In astrological terms, this is the start of a new year. We go from the heavenly and spiritual energy of Pisces; the slow watery sign that dreams and imagines, that is not so tied to this earthly plane as it is to the next, and lives half beyond the veil, to the Aries’ abrupt, rising, warrior energy.
Most of the ancient and modern astrologers agree that the year’s wheel is a metaphor to the lifecycle. We start out as babies with the high intensive energy of Aries, and make our way until we are in our later years (i.e. months) with the ending of the year in the wise, twinkling and elder spirit of Pisces.
The Aries temperament is similar to a young child’s in that it is fresh and vibrant, it has no fear, it goes after what it wants, it cries when it doesn’t get it -but- gets right back up again! This temperament may get angry, however, Aries has taught us to use that anger for production, and never to hold onto it.
…There are various other cultures and traditions that attach characteristics, emotions, energy, colors, and, even, taste and sounds to these transitional times. But, the majority would agree that this is the most impactful time of year, full of metamorphoses and change: the time leaving winter and entering spring. The opposition of these two seasonal energies create a vortex of possibilities in each of our lives…
Did you know Meditation can reduce insomnia by 75%?
It can reduce anxiety by 60%?
It increases heart, hormonal and gut health!!
The problem is… whenever you’ve tried it, a voice goes off in your head and the laundry list of to-dos rattles off, or there’s the train you need to catch or the dog that has to go out or the kid that’s late for school.
Sound familiar?
That’s why I made this FREE Yoga Nidra recording.
To make meditation EASY, ENJOYABLE and DOABLE so that you can gain ALL those benefits by literally just lying there! An easy first step to ultimate health.
Start with an “ahh….”
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Why Most Vision Boards Don’t Work (And What I Do Instead)
It starts with a slight itch. Like nothing quite feels right. Like when you have an itchy sweater on that you just NEED to take off. But once it’s off, that itch is still there.
That’s kind of what it feels like when you’re feeling ready for a new chapter… but unsure how to cross the threshold. Got the itch? Then keep reading ~ this is for you.
I write this from a place of lived experience… and then some. Many, many, MANY times I’ve changed directions (for my astrology peeps- that’s my intercepted MC hard at work!). And that “in-between” space? It’s a REAL place. Not only real, but a tender place where the old version of you is loosening(old routines, old roles, old identities) but the new version hasn’t fully been discovered yet. And if you’re an empath (or having a deeply ‘feely’ human moment), it can seem like: “Why can’t I just decide already?” “Why am I emotional for no reason?” “Why do I want change and also want to hide under a blanket forever?”
We burn out. We disconnect. And we convince ourselves that magic was never real to begin with.
But here’s what I know: you’re allowed to stop waiting for those dreams. You’re allowed to stop participating in the hustle culture. You’re allowed to pause and breathe. And most importantly? You’re allowed to start creating.
Got the Itch? How to Start a New Chapter When You Feel Stuck
It starts with a slight itch. Like nothing quite feels right. Like when you have an itchy sweater on that you just NEED to take off. But once it’s off, that itch is still there.
That’s kind of what it feels like when you’re feeling ready for a new chapter… but unsure how to cross the threshold. Got the itch? Then keep reading ~ this is for you.
I write this from a place of lived experience… and then some. Many, many, MANY times I’ve changed directions (for my astrology peeps- that’s my intercepted MC hard at work!). And that “in-between” space? It’s a REAL place. Not only real, but a tender place where the old version of you is loosening(old routines, old roles, old identities) but the new version hasn’t fully been discovered yet. And if you’re an empath (or having a deeply ‘feely’ human moment), it can seem like: “Why can’t I just decide already?” “Why am I emotional for no reason?” “Why do I want change and also want to hide under a blanket forever?”
We burn out. We disconnect. And we convince ourselves that magic was never real to begin with.
But here’s what I know: you’re allowed to stop waiting for those dreams. You’re allowed to stop participating in the hustle culture. You’re allowed to pause and breathe. And most importantly? You’re allowed to start creating.
A Moon That Remakes You: November’s Crossroads
You’re not imagining it—the magic really did disappear for a while. The world just takes from us, doesn’t it?
The bills. The to-do lists that never end. The constant pressure to keep up, show up, be more, do more. We’re so busy surviving the demands of modern life that we forget we ever had dreams. Forget what it feels like to be aligned with anything beyond just making it through the day.
And somewhere in all that noise and depletion, the sacred slips away. We lose touch with the part of us that used to believe in something bigger. That used to feel things deeply.
We burn out. We disconnect. And we convince ourselves that magic was never real to begin with.
But here’s what I know: you’re allowed to stop waiting for those dreams. You’re allowed to stop participating in the hustle culture. You’re allowed to pause and breathe. And most importantly? You’re allowed to start creating.
Shana is a New Yorker and a native to Long Island’s east end. A lifelong passion in food, health and wellness led her to become an advanced 500 hour registered Yoga teacher through Yoga Alliance, a Licensed Body Worker, a trained Herbalist, a Reiki and PEMF (Pulse Electro-Magnetic Field) Practitioner. She has studied abroad in India, as well as studying functional and integrative nutrition at IIN (Institute of Integrated Nutrition), is a National Board-Certified Health & Wellness Coach (NBC-HWC), and Certified Hypno-counselor.
She is well versed in ancient theologies and eastern healing systems such as acupuncture and Ayurveda. Working with these philosophies, and integrating holistic nutrition, yoga and meditation is how she serves and supports her clients to heal and transform their lives. Shana currently lives in Northport, NY where she works as a Holistic Coach.